Those other games just don't make use of the functionality in that DLL so they dont need it.
So you have 2 choices:
1. Don't call any D3DX functions e.g. write your own mesh/sprite/font/etc handling
2. Include the DirectSetup files with your app, or ask people to run the websetup to ensure that file is there.
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